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The potential of starting a new relationship can be exciting, but it’s also consistently a time we throw caution to the wind and ignore serious red flags. We either overlook them completely, or we don’t ask very important questions because, for some reason, they don’t seem socially acceptable. If everyone just asked these ten questions, they wouldn’t necessarily be deal breakers, but they’d certainly give you a better understanding of what you’re getting into. But let’s face it, you’re not gonna do anyway.
How’s that for honestly? We think we covered all the basics, but what glaring questions do you think should have made the first date cut?
First Date Questions You Should Always Ask
1. How many hours per day are you staring at your phone?
No judgment if you’re always looking at your screen, but it is going to be a problem if one of you logs into Instagram twice a year and the other spends 23 hours a day clicking through Tumblr posts.
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2. Are you going to point out everyone you’ve slept with?
We all have a history, and that’s completely fine. However, I don’t need you to point out every person we see at Wendy’s or on a Toyota commercial that you hooked up with when you were in Palm Springs. No one wants those details.
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3. Are you broke?
Wouldn’t it be nice to know right out of the gate if date night is going to consist of filet mignon or Taco Bell? Again, just because you’re broke doesn’t mean it’s a deal breaker, but let’s just get all that out of the way before we start.
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4. Is your family an overbearing nightmare?
Are you never going to post pictures of us together because you aren’t serious about the relationship, or because your insane sister is going to dox me and sell me into human trafficking?
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5. How often do you isolate yourself from the world and spend the day crying on your bedroom floor?
Wouldn’t it be cool to know that the person you’re dating is being distant and awkward because they’re just constantly depressed and not because you accidentally threw out their leftover fries from Dairy Queen?
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6. Do you live like a nomad and move to new cities constantly?
Hey, before I develop deep, meaningful feelings for you, how about a quick heads up where you let me know that your lease is month-to-month and, at any given moment, you could decide to move to Jacksonville just for a change of scenery?
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7. Are you over all your exes?
My god. Imagine the amount of time, energy, and money you’d save if you could just ask your date, "When’s the last time you checked your ex’s Facebook page?"
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8. What’s your Uber score?
You can tell a lot about someone by his or her Uber score. Are they punctual? Are they friendly to strangers? Do they treat others property like their own personal trash can? Check that score. It’s a huge tell.
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9. Are you ever going to do anything nice for me?
If your idea of a birthday gift is a hat you ordered last minute on Amazon, that’s fine. However, I’ll know not to hire a marching band and personal chef for our 6-month anniversary.
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10. Do you even want to be on this date right now?
We’ve all been on dates where, after five minutes, we know it’s not going to be a thing. There’s no spark and that’s all well and good. So let’s just start asking and save ourselves an evening of sitting in a booth drinking with someone we never want to see again.
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