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It is somewhat presumptuous of us to claim to know exactly what women want because no amount of literature both online and offline can really know that. The only thing we can do is ask them and hope that their answers aren’t just extremely clever misleading pieces of information designed to deceive us all and teach us a lesson. So, we did just that. We concentrated on one rather important element of male-female relationship – sex and tried to determine what it is that women secretly desire but refrain from telling their partners. Let’s see if it will help.
Eye Contact
One of the first things that women complain about when it comes to intimate moments with their partners is that they forget about the eye contact. For women, it is crucial that you maintain eye contact throughout the intercourse to show that it is also an emotional and not just a physical connection. A number of women stated that these kinds of glances actually increase their desire and make them more turned on. So, if you want to help your girl reach the climax, remember to keep the eye contact, especially during some of those crucial moments.
Rhythm
Perhaps you’ve noticed that women like to dance much more than men and apparently it’s for a good reason. It could be a remnant of something primal, but the fact is that rhythm that happens on the dancefloor should also transfer to the bedroom. What turns women on is a man who has a sense of rhythm and knows how to apply it during sex. Try to think of sex as a number of different cycles that should follow one another and become more and more intense. The cycles need to have a constancy and you need to know when to change them. Your best guide for this is your partner’s reaction. Her breath will tell you all you need to know.
Patience
Axl Rose of Guns ‘N Roses once said that all we need is a little patience. We didn’t know, however, that he could have been referring to the bedroom activities. Another complaint women had was that their partners were a bit impatient during sex. While the absence of foreplay is a somewhat common issue, women take it one step beyond and claim that they also need a lot of pre-foreplay. This is understandable as girls usually need more time to reach the climax, so there’s no rush, OK?
Taking Charge
From what you’ve read by now, you could conclude that women are quite demanding, but various surveys state that what a woman wants is actually someone to take charge for a while. Whether that means a bit rougher sex or playing by your rules depends on your partner, but the point is – you need to be a man. You can tell by her reactions whether she likes it or not, but generally, as a rule, what women want in a man is to behave a bit primal from time to time. Just don’t overdo it.
Public
You might be surprised to hear that most of the women get excited from the notion of having sex somewhere in public. It’s understandable considering that it includes a constant change of scenery, a rush from the possibility of being caught and, again, something primal as you’re much closer to nature. If this is too much of a step for you, try to do it gradually. First, move from your bedroom and work your way towards the outside. Doing this will spice up your relationship and allow your girl to behave in a whole new way.
Toys
Finally, many studies show that what women want in bed are actually sex toys. Don’t think that this means you’re not enough for them. It’s simply that they enjoy some additional stimulation from time to time and their orgasms are a lot more complex, so do your best to understand them. Visit a sex shop with her and let her choose. Figuring out how these things are used is half the fun.
Now that you know what women want in bed, you can go ahead and put this information to good use. Let us know how it worked out.
