Disadvantages
Desensitizing your tools
Excessive watching of pornography and masturbating can desensitize your brain and your penis to actual stimulants of a woman. When you’re watching pros with augmented bodies and professional make-up do unimaginable, perverse things it’s then hard for real, everyday women to excite you in the proper way. Which will result in unsatisfaction by both parties involved in the sexual intercourse. The second thing is that with masturbation you’re in control of motion and pressure applied to your penis and care only about your own pleasure, and that isn’t the case in sex, so don’t be surprised if a girl tells you or her friends that she felt like you were masturbating with her body instead of your hand. Sex is much more than that.
Objectifying women
While not all pornography is the same, the majority of it puts women in subordinate roles of being sex objects that are only there to satisfy man’s every desire with absolutely no other purpose. And you know, real-life girls won’t be prepared to do that just as much as they won’t be ready to open their legs for every pizza delivery guy when asking for extra pepperoni. As the brain gets this subliminal information day in, day out for years, this can damage your non-sexual relationships with women, like with your colleagues or friends, seeing them like less than yourself, which will deservedly bite you in the ass as women can sense those things.
Wasting time
“I just don’t have the time right now” is the most common excuse in the modern society, and while it’s just an easy let off for some at times, we all feel like we’re chasing the hands of the clock daily. You don’t have time for that extra job to boost your finances, you don’t have time to go see your friends during the week, no time to make a difference in your community, but you have time and time again to watch other people have sex and enjoy themselves (and get paid for it) on a screen in a dark room. And time is the only resource you can’t earn back, so a life full of regret starts by not appreciating yours in the moment. While porn might not be bad, we can agree that there are far superior things to it available.
Fruitless spending of sexual energy
The desire to reproduce is the second strongest human instinct second only to survival, therefore it is a great natural motivator. People who are suffering from pornography addiction know it as that impulse that makes pornography a priority in front of real life obligations like chores or plans with friends which make them cancel or postpone them. People who have learned to harvest this green, renewable, powerful energy utilize it as a catalyst for taking actions that, in turn, bring them sexual partners. And a high level of sexual energy during actual sex improves the act for the both parties included as nobody wants to feel like an errand to their partner in bed, but an actual need.
Killing motivation
There are countless memes like the Foul Bachelor Frog that deal with a subject of “faping” ending the desire to call your ex or to invite a new crush to drinks. And while it’s regarded here as an asset, it can be a ball chain slowing your progress in life as the lack of motivation to do these actions can determine your life in the next couple of months. So when it keeps repeating you might get stuck in a rut, deciding that girl who was looking at you in the subway was doing so because you have breadcrumbs on your face, or that the girl who gave you her number last night isn’t worth the hassle. Browsing through pornography is a quick fix for these hesitations, and will result in a big problem when you get ready to sleep alone once again.
There are more advantages and more disadvantages for watching porn, like you don’t have to pay for dates on one side and you don’t have to wonder is Pornhub safe so someone might see your dark secrets online on the other. But the benefits of watching pornography can be achieved by different things, while the disadvantages can’t be mended by other remedies.
So maybe you can be grateful that you have experienced it, but are ready to leave it in your past like you did with your toys when you became a teen. It’s quite doable, and if after six months you don’t feel any improvements in your life, porn will be waiting for you.
What are your thoughts on this polarizing subject, is porn bad or is it just being misused?
